You might have been laid off recently. And you might be saying, “boo hoo hoo, nothing’s fair.” Let me tell you something. If you were laid off, it was your fault.
Period.
No ifs, ands or buts about it. It was your fault. See, you didn’t add enough value, you didn’t shine enough. You probably had long coffee breaks, and you probably did things (like edit this book on company time) that caused you to be expendable. Then, when you become a freelancer you whine that scummy places like Odesk are hard to keep.
Superstars are retained. And if you were let go–it’s much easier to look at your own self and decide that something bad happened, and it wasn’t your fault.
But look in them mirror, compadre.
It was your fault. It was something that you caused, it was something that happened because you didn’t shine to the point where the company decided that they couldn’t afford to let you go.
Now–that’s good news.
If it was your fault, then you’re not a victim of circumstance. You’re not someone to be messed with, you’re your own actor, you can take your own actions, you are in control. Look, true superstars are rare, and few and far between. True superstars are compelling, are earmarked early. People with the intuition to win.
Have you? Not hit a deadline?
Have you…complained abotu the job?
Showed up late, drunk or both?
Have you misunderstood or whined about something at work? Not been grateful for the at bat, for the way to do it better than it’s been done? Have you missed your sales quota?
Are you in a nonesential department? Is the company you work for selling stuff that people don’t need?
Then it’s likely that your fall is your fault.
What does whining do anyway? What does complaining, bitching or something else do? Nothing good. Be someone that’s better, that works harder and does it differently.
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There are real victims in the world. Few of them are bossy women that are worried about “entitlement,” or a “glass ceiling.” We came a cross an absolutely hideous post on how Women hit a Glass Ceiling. After I bought a new keyboard (I had been compelled vomited all over the old one), I got to thinking: what would motivate someone to write this kind of post. And it can only be two things: Outright greed, and failure to view reality.
See, egotism demands that we are honored. Part of our brain revises history to make us look a little better, to make things work a little better for us. And to make things “not our fault.” Some diabolical external force, some cultural bias on a standardized test is to blame. Not us. Not the fact that we didn’t work hard enough, care enough, or put in the time. We were robbed. We were cheated. We don’t have to take stock in our own failure, we can look externally and that’s where the blame lies. And we–as women–are victims.
That erodes our work ethic. Why work if it’s futile?
Then that erodes where we spend energy. Let’s fix the system and presume it’s broken and make producers defend their production. Let’s use our energy DESTROYING things, because I can’t own up to the fact that I’m not smart or valuable. I’ll embitter myself because I’m a victim. I didn’t fail, I was robbed. See? You don’t have to answer the hard question: how good am I really.
The Victimizers Become Needed
The other, more insidious part (one role that Al Sharpton played) is the elevation of the whistle blower to leader status. See, it goes like this. I remind you you’re a victim. I speak out, and tell you that you need me. Oh, pay me some mind, union dues. Since I’m speaking out, I’ll be the one to decide things for you. Oh, can you give me a speaking fee so I can protect your rights? After all, I’m only doing it for you. You need me. You need biiiiig daddy to speak up for you. Because you’re a victim, why would we expect you to show anything close to competance.
If you have a vested interest in convincing someone else they are victims, then you are a bad person. If you benefit from someone else’s oppression, even if you’re not oppressing them, then you are a bad person. And anyone that’s going to force a glass ceiling–a nebulous and unactionable BS conspiracy that has the inept putting a claim on the competent? Then you’re a bad person. F#@% you.
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by chris on May 18, 2009
F#@% The Secret. No, seriously. F#@% it. See–a load of self help books came out. They were greeted with anything from wan interest to enthusiasm. But the Secret stands alone. Only the Secret spawned disciples. In a way that not even the Purpose Driven Life could, the Secret created legions of zombies that are innured to reason and hard work.
Ask.
Believe.
Recieve.
Easy for Oprah who put sweat equity into a 30+ year career of knowing what people want, and giving it to them (A CAR! A CAR!). But for normal people? Ask, believe, receive? And having the results of your STUFF (Oh, we wrote the chapter on F#@% materialism) be tied to your belief? Purty crazy if you ask us.
Anyone that hands you a copy of the secret is demented. Possessed of a mind that is not their own, and is not fully responsible for their actions. Hard work is the only thing that matters. Doing it yourself and being determined…not simply believing. Anyone that tells you different is selling books and going on a worldwide publicity tour.
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