Period.

No ifs, ands or buts about it.  It was your fault.     See, you didn’t add enough value, you didn’t shine enough.  You probably had long coffee breaks, and you probably did things (like edit this book on company time) that caused you to be expendable.   Then, when you become a freelancer you whine that scummy places like Odesk are hard to keep.

Superstars are retained.  And if you were let go–it’s much easier to look at your own self and decide that something bad happened, and it wasn’t your fault.

But look in them mirror, compadre.

It was your fault.  It was something that you caused, it was something that happened because you didn’t shine to the point where the company decided that they couldn’t afford to let you go.

Now–that’s good news.

If it was your fault, then you’re not a victim of circumstance.  You’re not someone to be messed with, you’re your own actor, you can take your own actions, you are in control.   Look, true superstars are rare, and few and far between.   True  superstars are compelling, are earmarked early.   People with the intuition to win.

Have you?  Not hit a deadline?

Have you…complained abotu the job?

Showed up late, drunk or both?

Have you misunderstood or whined about something at work?  Not been grateful for the at bat, for the way to do it better than it’s been done?   Have you missed your sales quota?

Are you in a nonesential department?  Is the company you work for selling stuff that people don’t need?

Then it’s likely that your fall is your fault.

What does whining do anyway?  What does complaining, bitching or something else do?  Nothing good.  Be someone that’s better, that works harder and does it differently.

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If you were valuable to your company you would have been retained.   The face saving B.S. about ‘reducing headcount,’ or ‘ensuring that we can be rightsized’ is just to keep you from taking it personally.  But look: superstars are spared.  Companies are DESPERATE for a bright light.  And if you’re waiting in an unemployment line, you’re not a bright light.

But take heart: you DO NOT HAVE TO STAY A slug.  You don’t have to be a clutterpeson.  It’s a choice.  Here are some questions you gotta ask yourself–and be honest with yourself because it’s probably true.

• Are you relying on your degree for your justification, or your results?
• Are you working smart and hard?
• Are you easy to get along with?
• Do you get your work done early?
• Do you look for more ways to improve?
• Do you connect and help everyone you can?
• Do you uphold a fierce standard of excellence?

If you’re not doing this stuff, and you have no job, it’s your fault.  Hard workers have jobs.  People looking for jobs have jobs.   If you’re just sitting around and bitching about the state of the economy, waiting for a new Obama Bailout Check, then its your fault that you don’t have a job.  You probably carried around the do nothing, baby boomer attitude that got you fired in the first case.

Look: we’re only at 10% unemployment.  If you’ve been fired, ten you’re in the lowest 10% of results.  That should be a wake-up call. You are the problem.  Your efforts were miserable.  You were missing some boat, and this is not a time to let your EGO talk.  You were released because you weren’t particularly valuable.  You were released because you were a mess.  So –the question is: what are you going to do about it? Are you going to out think, out work, out hustle and out try everyone?

Or are you gonna whine like a four year old on a sugar crash?

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Look, you get paid based not on your knowledge or your tenure, but on your contribution. You get paid based on what you give to others, on how you help. NOT…based on who you are or anything like that. When you work to help, serve, and do things for others, you’re much more secure than you would be otherwise.

We’re telling you to f#@% your job because right now, it’s a source of angst and pain. Being part of that herd is not for free thinkers. Do and chase what you’re energized and passionate about, and you’ll soon be secure, irreplaceable, and valuable.

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